Good news, you don't need a pelvic exam to get certain methods of birth control (like the pill, patch, etc.) it's all on: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/cpn/medicalinfo/birthcontrol/;jsessionid=F9967196D56D671579EF1D6A6B6FE6B2

I advocate safe sex everyone...

For the boys, we will learn female anatomy basics.

Most of you assume that a girl should be able to orgasm soley from vaginal stimulation. You are dead wrong. Few can orgasm from that. You must learn about the clitoris. It's like a very very small woman penis (this is the my analogy, shhh!) and it's located at the very top of the whole organ, where the lips start, it's in a little fold and it's a tiny little bump. When stimulated directly, it can peek from the fold. Some women can find this painful, so if it hurts her, you had better stop. That is a good place to concentrate on especially when you are giving her oral.

When having sex, the best way to stimulate the clit is (if she is on the bottom) putting her lower back/butt on a pillow and the guy leaning forward. If she's on top, she already has the clit stimulation going on. There are many ways, and you can find out more at:

http://www.luckymojo.com/tkclitoris.html

informative.

our word for the day is: Saliromania. This is an obsession with filth, ugliness, and deformity. Also a sexual fetish, used in the same sense. I guess one in this case would like a murder scene in which a baby with no face and 3 arms was butchered and there's blood all over the place and this individual gets a bit randy.

Nice. So, have a lovely New Year's and men, when she says no it definitely means no. NOT YES.

Oh my, it has been far too long! I have been busy busy for the past few months... err, yeah. So for our word for this evening, let's see shall we?

Ecouteurism! This is being sexually aroused by listening to accounts of sexual encounters and/or observing them. I believe most people fit into this category. Heard of porn anybody?

For the lovely toy this evening, it shall be lube (other than the natural kind). I have recently attained in my possession Sex Tarts lube in Tangy Tangerine. For the tasing aspect of this edible lube, it is rather sour and not too sweet, but that could have been from the carbonated soda I drank beforehand. The taste left in your mouth doesn't taste much like anything, not too bad. I would give it on a scale of 1-10 on taste about a 5.5, could be much better (as in sweet). It also comes off as a bit too runny...

That's the little collection there...

You can find those at Spencer's for an outrageous price of one penny away from $10.00

Until next time, good evening.

anyway, for our new topic! oooh, I can't wait. this is practically my highlight of the day, I'm sooo excited!

Today we're discussing transvestism and transsexuality. Believe me, there is a slight difference between the two so you can distinguish and use the words in the correct sense.

A transvestite solely dons articles of clothing from the opposite sex. Think Dr. Frank n' Furter from the classic (and one of my favorites) The Rocky Horror Picture Show. Cross-dressing at its finest.

A transsexual has the urge, usually from childhood, to belong to the opposite sex. They feel confused and think that they may be homosexual as they grow older. Some firmly believe as adults that they were put into the wrong body still, and that is what drove them to pursue further action. A transsexual will go as far as to have a sex-change operation to accumulate the genitalia of the sex of their choice. I find this absolutely fascinating!

now! we can discuss S&M topic of the day! I will discuss fireplay, which is always exciting for the pyro deep, deep in your soul. If you have one, that is.

This is setting yourself aflame into a sexy flaming fireball. Like an erotic inferno, sure to please.

This website explains what you should have to be prepared (a bowl of ice water, wet towels, and an extinguisher) and to use alcohol to have your flame going. http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/toys_fireplay.php3

it's really quite fascinating. I shall try this out sometime.

it's not quite THAT extreme, but it probably turned this person on.

holy god, I haven't updated in a bit! I have been busy and away n stuff. It happens.

Nobody leaves me comments. Are you bored?

today's topic: Narratophilia

this is getting off on dirty words in the presence of your partner. They can say naughty words, or you are. This includes nudie mags and books and maybe also an auditory narrative of obscene language.

this one sucks. Honestly, who gets off on words? That's crap.

so today since narratophilia is bs, we are going to discuss S&M and B&D techniques, and I found a quaint little article on the "Joy of Caning"

caning should really be done with a 1/4" or a 3/8" for beginners. Anything from 1/2" to something larger leaves deeper... scarring, as I should put it. It's heavier and more painful, and if you expose this early on with little control on your partner is can lead after the first stroke to the Great Libido Downfall.

you can cane pretty much about anything. I don't reccommend the face. you can do it on the breasts, ass, thighs, feet, stomach, and of course, south of your belly button. That's right. People actually LIKE getting hit in the balls.

the author says rattan canes are best. She mentioned that bamboo was too rigid (flexibility is important), and breaks easily. Plastic can hurt. I would rather use rattan myself.

anyway, timing of the blows is important, as well as your aim of course (she suggests practicing on a dark pillow with like, baby powder so you can see your blows). It's all in the wrist. The author also says that one should not lift the cane immediately after striking, but you should linger so the vibrations spread and I guess it hurts more. I wish I could try these things out for you all beforehand, but there aren't many adventurous people out there. Or, they get quickly scared.

Clenching of your partner's buttocks means they're really not enjoying it that well. Either you slow down the pace of your blows, or take it a little easier.

The little canes that I suggested via article don't leave the nasty bruises that the thicker ones do- if you do it properly.

This is potentially dangerous, and I don't know how it could be, it sounds pretty cool to me. the riding crop is too cliche.

Also to consider: your body positioning. It is very rare to enjoy caning while standing. You can cane someone while they are in some bondage suspension system, but thats tricky. Most like it lying on their stomachs on a bed or platform. Make sure its not too low so your strokes or blows won't be erratic.

http://paddlewerks.com/en-us/dept_51.html

there is your link to observe the process of caning and the type of canes to use!

rawr. today's topic: somnophilia

this is basically violating a sleeping person... you intrude and then fondle, and of course, you get off on it. this has to be the gateway paraphilia to necrophilia. I'm sure of it.

we can also cover the literal definitions of incubus and succubus.

incubi: spirits (usually demons) that lie upon sleeping people. Incubi is usually the term for the ones that have sex with women when the women are sleeping.

succubi are demons that have female form and have sex with men when the men are sleeping.

I guess this is how people during the medieval ages explained unplanned pregnancies. I'm not sure. Someone made all this up somehow.

annnd... our TOY for TODAY!

Sue Johanson's Royal Balls (as they are called). They "roll" around as you move and be sure to keep the cord on the OUTSIDE of your body so you don't have to make an emergency trip to your gyno. They're supposed to strengthen your kegel muscles and be arousing. Made of silicone.

here's the link to the pic and all the info which is mostly what I repeated above: http://store.wspisp.net/melroseurbanfemale/Detail.bok?no=595